Wednesday, September 8, 2010

For the Love of our fellow Brother

I haven't blogged about anything in a while. I was busy, Bored or a combination of both, but there was a news story that re-ignited the fire. There is a Small Building in Florida in disguise as a "Church" named Dove World Outreach Center who plans to dishonor 3,000 people, 2 religions, and 1 country by burning the Holy Qu'ran. I simply do not know how he could get any further from the teachings of Jesus Christ.

I simply do not know how someone with such hatred in his heart could be the leader of a church group. Furthermore how brainwashed and fanatical do you have to be to follow him? For the past nine years The United States has had a love affair with hating Islam, and everything that surrounds it. We take everything we hear and distort it into an absoulte truth, that doesn't even carry enough credibility to be a lie. Americans know absolutely nothing about islam. They didn't before 9/11 and they surely don't Post 9/11. There are almost 2 billion Muslims on this planet, and you would have to be insane to think that even the Minority look like this.









Yet images like these are plastered on our Televisions, and Computer monitors on a regular basis. That is the only variable that is an absolute truth. Over the past 9 years the American Media has prospered on broadcasting conflicting images pertaining to Islam, and the American people have eaten it up. We have been caught hook, line and sinker. If you asked an ordinary American from the Midwest what comes to mind when you said the word "Muslim" I could almost guarantee they would use the word "Terrorist". We've been conditioned to beleive that Islam is a Religion based on Violence,when in fact the "root" of the word "Islam" in Arabic is SALAMA which is the origin of the words Peace & / or Submission, a submission to God and peace to all humanity. It is, thus, no wonder why the salutation in Islam is: "Al-Salamu Alaikum or Peace be upon You.".


Unfortunetly The demonstration in Florida will not be the only one. From a very reliable source I've heard of One in Georgia, and another in New York, and I fear that there may be more rally's like this one around the country. This is not the work of God, and any act should be condemmend as DEMONIC, HATEFUL, SINFUL, and BLASPHEMOUS. As a United Race called Humans regardless of Color, Nationality, and religion should not support this. Our Brothers and Sisters are being Persecuted, The very backbone of there existance mocked, and destroyed, and for what? 9/11/2001 Is done and over with. There is no retribution for the past, and The muslim population of the world should not be made to pay for 19 other mens sins. The Amerikkkan culture is built on hate. It's built on misunderstanding, and it thrives on the downfall of others. I guess dropping bombs continuously on two countries, and ravaging a region where islam is the Primary Religion isn't enough. We have to burn it's history as well.

To all my Islamic Brothers and Sister as you stand united in the face of Biggotry...

From the heart of a true Christian.

Ana behibak ...Ana behibek And Ya Khawati

Monday, July 19, 2010

Becoming a 5-tool player Part 2A. (The suit.)

I'm not a suit guy personally; however there are times where I do need to put one on. Fortunately for me I was blessed with a father who understands the particulars of style, And he always told me it doesn't matter the color, or the pattern, but the FIT is what makes the suit. Too often you'll see a guy with an off the rack suit he didn't bother to get tailored. Or a guy who has gained or lost weight content with wearing his favorite suit despite the fact it fits incorrectly. Here is guide to helping you purchase the correct suit.

The first thing to do, if you haven’t already, is get properly measured this includes: neck, shoulders, sleeves, chest, waist and inseam. Once you know your size you are free to hit the dressing rooms. And when you do go shopping for men's suits, keep these four things in mind:


Number one: The Fit of your Trousers

Make sure that the waistline of your trousers is comfortable and that you can stick two fingers into the waist while you're wearing them. And as far as pleats are concerned, it’s usually a personal preference. However, as a general rule, pleats are better for those with larger tummies and not a good idea for those who are thin. This is because a flat front trousers accentuate your tummy if you have one and pleats help cover it up. And conversely, pleats make a skinny guy look even skinnier, and not in a good way.



Number two: The Hem of your trouser

Nothing says sloppy more than a pile of fabric at your ankle. Your pants should reach your shoes and have a slight break. Cuffed or uncuffed is your choice, but keep in mind that cuffless makes you look taller if you happen to be a little shorter and cuffs looks better on someone with long legs. Cuffs also appeal to a more mature consumer.



Number three: The Length of your sleeves

Make sure your sleeve length is right on, otherwise you will look like you borrowed someone else’s suit. If the sleeve covers your shirt cuff, it is too long. It should just reach the base of your thumb, revealing a half inch to an inch of your shirt cuff—very classy.


Number four: The waist of your jacket

The jacket should fit easily across your stomach. The traditional American suit with two buttons, which has been a mainstay for many years, is being replaced by suit jackets which are more fitted and have three and four buttons. However, the classic two-button style remains popular, and some two-button jackets offer a fresh twist with higher button placement similar to the three-button style and is often more flattering. Whether your preferred style is classic or modern, look for fitted waistlines that enhance the shape of your body. Getting a close fit at the waist is, do I dare say it?, a good thing.


When it is all said and done, you should be able to stretch and bend easily in your suit. Make sure that you that you have free movement of your arms. As a test, bring your arms out straight in front of you, and also try sitting in a chair and pretend you are working. You should always be comfortable.



In case the text doesn't do it for you...I've provided a few examples.







The two example(s) listed above are "Properly Fitted suits".










The two listed above can be categorized as "Ill-Fitting"







Side By Side Comparison





I'll save the conclusion for Part 2B...which will detail Different cuts of suit, along with Shirts, Ties, and putting together Proper combination's.

Monday, June 28, 2010

Becoming a 5-tool Player: The massage

There are things that every man should have in his arsenal that makes him that much more attractive to his partner. In this ongoing series I'll be detailing some of those things that will help you to become a "5-tool player". Part one will be covering the "Massage".










Go home... Study up, and Go try these techniques out on your significant other. I know I will!

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Song of the Day: Gyptian Hold Yuh!

What's the value of your affection

The Idea of love in my opinion has been cheapened. It seems like every time there is a new way to purchase someone’s Affection. Am I cheap? Yes. Do I know that there should be a higher value placed on love? Hell yes. In every Country on every Continnent there is a woman content with being mistreated because her allowance is on the way. Ironically there are entire industry’s that are predicated off men trying to either buy love or buy back love. For some it works, for others it’s a necessity. I know women right now who would rather there significant others purchase extravagant gifts than to invest in a future (Ie Home Mortgage). This in itself is why I say the game is all fucked up. Love is a game of skill, not luck. Love takes endurance. Love takes patience. Love takes strategy. What happens when/if the money well dries up? What happens when the hard times come, and the good times aint rollin? Forget love…You can include that in the realm of “in like”. Depending on money to guide you through the gauntlet of love is like trying to negotiate a mountain road in February on a Motorcycle. You better have an amazing amount of skill, or one hell of an insurance policy. Money is important. It’s how we all keep a roof over our heads, and food on our table. It isn’t important for someone looking for someone. It’s important if you’re looking for someone who can provide you with a good time…But not if you’re looking for someone to provide you with the companionship we all truly crave, and desire. Nothing in this world is free. Everything comes with a price tag, but last time I checked…Love don’t cost a thing

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Standing Out in a Sea Of Confusion.

If "looking the part" is the first line of defense in any first encounter why in gods name would you want to look like everyone else? Once you hit a certain age the Cookie Cutter approach to Fashion/ Courtship gets stale. Women want to see a man with a sense of individuality. Sometimes it can go overboard. Even I can be guilty of that. I like my odd colored shoes, and outrageously coordinated outfits from time to time, but I would rather run the risk of being over the top, than not even attempting to climb the ladder. The thing is you have to try. You have to experiment in order to gain appreciation for not only style, but your OWN unique personal style. If you think women are getting turned on by your XXXL Tees and your XXL Pants when you're clearly a large you're sadly mistaken. It's the girls who are taken back by your choice of fashion, and it's the women that are laughing at you. It's the women who are shaking there heads at the waste of looks, poise, and confidence being dragged down by the overabundance of unnecessary fabric. And to be honest it has nothing to do with labels, but everything to do with Cleanliness, Fit, and Coordination. You have to ask yourself one important question. How can a woman ever see you as a man If you don't Look like one?


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Thursday, May 27, 2010

If you want to keep someone...You better sure as hell act like it.

Yesterday I was looking over at my neighbor who just so happens to be about 6.5 months pregnant. I've watched her belly grow over the last few months, but haven't seen the father since she started to show. Why is this important? Because about a year and a half ago she was engaged to another man. A man whom she'd been with for 3 years, and was Holding out on...Er... Preserving herself until marriage. This man ended up cheating on her. I don't condone cheating, but if you've been with someone for 3 years, "Put a ring on it", and still don't get any there's a HUGE flaw in your relationship. I can still remember the days she came to our door crying about how much of an asshole he was. Only to enter into a new relationship and give it up almost instantly. Only to break up with this guy, put out some more, and now is alone, and pregnant.When if she acted right in the beginning would probably be Married, and had the support necessary to provide a stable environment for her child. What's the moral of the story? Don't make your partner jump through unnecessary hoops in order to stroke your ego. If you love someone. SHOW IT! Regardless if it's Emotional, mental or physical. All three needs must be met(at some point) to validate the relationship. Because if you don't. You're going to find yourself in a situation like my neighbor. Displacing anger because YOU fucked up. Like I said before...I don't condone cheating. BUT...I understand.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

UPDATE***

Sorry guys, I've been sick for the last couple of weeks, and haven't really had the Desire to do much blogging. Stay Tuned...A new entry is on the way!


I do want to take a moment to extend my prayers to the People of Jamaica. Tivoli Gardens to be specific. For those who don't know the U.S. government is seeking extradition of Christopher "Dudus" Coke. Some of the Residents of Tivoli have taken up arms in support of "Dudus" and some are being held hostage against there will. May god bring a swift resolution to this problem plaguing this area.

Jamaica...Our prayers are with you.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Good Lovers, Better Friends.

In my initial post I eluded to the fact that my wife is my BEST friend. The reason this is emphasized so much is because she's the first woman to hold that title. Ironic that the woman I chose to marry is also the person I can talk to about any, and everything. In the past I never really held any of the women I've dated in such high regard. They were GIRLfriends, and because of this I always kept them at a little bit of a distance when it came to certain things. I now know that establishing a strong friendship/companionship bond with your significant other is probably the most important thing you can have. You're not always going to have sex. You're not always going to have media distraction. You're not always going to have your boys. What happens if the power goes out? You just have sex until the power company sorts everything out? What happens if a child enters the picture? You slowly gravitate away from one another? Alot of people try to be very business-like about there relationships; But I believe that's wrong. Relationships aren't businesses. Marriages aren't contracts. They're bonds, and they only last if you're honest with yourself, and with each other. Honesty is not just simply telling the truth. It's acting out the truth. It's showing your true feelings. It's responding with true emotion. And once you establish this standard of honesty verbally, and physically your significant other becomes your best friend. I always thought this would be a bad thing. If we became friends it would destroy our intimacy. This couldn't be further from the truth. She already Chose you. If you were destined to be in the friend zone you'd already be there. The rest is up to you. Are YOU mature enough to handle the Dynamics involved in a relationship? Well...Are you?

Monday, April 26, 2010

Stick and Move

Love is a Fickle, Fickle game. One where we have to continually keep our ego in check, and keep our heads above water at all times to ensure it's survival. I think as men we find ourselves bowing out in certain relationship situations where we otherwise wouldn't. As married men we live by the saying "Happy wife, Happy life.". As far as you single guys go you may not use that saying but the same emphasis is there. Keep your woman happy, and everything will be alright. Personally I've found conflict with this; Shutting up and walking away from an argument hasn't always been easy for me. But think about it for one second. You standing there and exchanging blows with your significant other can have devastating effects. The truth is no one in a relationship ever really wins an argument, but it can be even worse for Us. In my experiences most women don't argue like men do. Most women tend to argue because a need or want needs to be addressed and we have just failed to listen. There are nags, and women who not only seek, love and need drama in there lives, but for the vast majority of women this is not the case. They're feeling emotionally neglected and they NEED you to listen. It's up to you as not only the man, but HER man to be receptive to her message. Listen, and be constructive. Be attentive to what she wants. This willingness to resolve the issue will bring you two closer together and decrease the likely hood of these discussions taking place. Arguments, and disagreements are apart of every relationship, but if your significant other knows that you are listening and Constantly working towards improving your relationship she will take a different approach to voicing her displeasure. There will be no need for you to do anything, She will check herself.

As always guys. Godspeed, and God Bless!

Friday, April 23, 2010

Less Talk, More Action.

Believe it or not I was not always the ladies man you see before you today. There was a time when women literally scared the crap out of me. You know the sweats, stuttering, rambling, etc, etc, and much like other men in my position took cues from guys who were perceived as being cool in the minds of women(or at that time girls.). Guys who not only looked the part, but Had the verbal "Game" to back it up. I figured if I got my "mouthpiece" in order the rest would be easy. That couldn't have been further from the truth. We are not car salesmen. We are not in the business of talking, but producing results. Although I'm sure they do exist, most women I've encountered Don't want a man who can talk a good game, but one who can put his thoughts, and ideas to use.As I've gotten older I have learned that game is not what you say. It's a mindset. It's a total image that you project.For some playing dress-up and improv-ing there way through the dating scene works; However that leads the real you to try and keep up with a persona you've created which almost never works out. When you're sincere, honest, and the "Real you" your actions naturally follow your words, and align perfectly with your true intentions.This way the woman gets a true sense for who you really are. Leading her to not only be more honest with you, but herself about the true nature of your relationship. Once this has been established there are a few things that you should never overlook. BE HONEST. Be where you say you're going to be. Most women are big girls, and can handle you hitting up a bar with the fellas. What they can't handle is hearing from a secondary source that you were at the bar trickin on all the females. BE ON TIME . It's nothing worse than having to wait for someone. Unless it's some unforseen circumstance you should be early, waiting to greet her. And last but most certainly not least. Be Open Be willing to experience everything this woman has to offer. You never know what type of Quirky activities she may be into. No matter what it is in order to increase her comfort level you must be open to who she really is.


In closing, Talk is cheap. Let your actions be the compass that leads your relationship down the right path.Create a bond based on trust, and dependability. The element of Security is what all successful relationships are built on. Establish it, and Maintain it.


Until next time. Godspeed, and God bless.

Friday, April 9, 2010

5 Recession Proof Date Ideas.

Let's face it. It's a Recession out there. While some of us are doing just fine, and can continue Lavish spending on Sporting Events, Concerts, and Dinners. For those of us who are not, here are some Ideas With a Big emphasis on Romance with Little impact on your finances.


1. Dinner and a movie DIY-style: Instead of going to a restaurant and theater, grab a Netflix and cook your date dinner.

2. Free culture: Most art galleries and/or museums that normally charge entry fees, usually have at least one “free night” a week – take advantage.

3. Have a picnic: Grab a picnic basket with some home-made goodies, a comfy blanket and spend a romantic day in the park.

4. Free wine-tasting: Most wine shops feature free promotional wine-tasting events, a perfect (and educational) date!

5. Your own personal sunset: Take a stroll and let the sunset be the destination for your date -– pretty and, more importantly, free!


These are just a handful. What you do is only limited to your imagination. Remember it isn't what you do, but who you're doing it with.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Song(s) of the week: Good Love Riddim (Oldie but goodie)

Just listen. It will most certainly put you in the Right mood.

Bros Before Hoes...Wheretheydothatat?

I've been hit with it. You've been hit with it. Stuck in the middle of a tug of war between your boys, and your girl. One wants a romantic evening full of your favorite carryout, cuddling, and a cheesy romance movie. The other wants drinking, body shots, and you to be the best wing man since goose in Top Gun. In theory the second one might sound a lot more fun, but in reality there isn't much of a competition. No matter what your boys might throw at you, You're going to end up sitting on that couch while your extremities fall asleep while watching a movie you hate. Why? Because that's what a REAL man does. They're going to throw the kitchen sink at you, but be vigilant and firm. There is much more at stake here. For one there is a Dependability issue. How can a woman depend on you when there is an emergency, when she can't depend on you to show up in Sweats with a pizza? Then there is an issue of Trust. "Why can't he spend time with me? Why is he always spending time with his boys and other women?". Oh and the biggest issue of them all. Your woman knows you would rather watch paint dry than to have to watch "Dirty Dancing" Or "Pretty Woman" or the "notebook", so chances are she will reward you for your patience at the end of the night. That in itself is enough to Ditch the frat boy act, and man up. There comes a time in a man's life where he needs to realize that his boys are going to be there no matter what. Conversely enough there comes a time in a man's life where he must draw the line between friendships, and relationships. A man needs to indicate the level of seriousness of his relationships maybe not verbally, but definitely in action. Show them your woman comes first. Show them that your relationship is a work in progress that cannot and will not be derailed by grandeur of years past, and that Keg stands, bar hoping and one-nighters are being replaced by romantic dinners,and the aforementioned "movie night". Boys night out are still something that has to be done. You can't destroy one relationship to build up another, but schedule them out, and be reasonable. Show your woman that for the time being she is the highlight of your personal life. Despite this they will try. Your friends will try the ole bait and switch from time to time. They'll resort to begging and pleading. They're going to tell you that they did it for you in the past, or how they really need you or your ability to help attract the "Potential". But ask yourself this. Why spend all night hooking someone else up, when you can spend all night hooking yourself up?

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Stay in your lane...

Who am I to tell a man not to chase his fantasy? Who am I to tell a man that he's aiming to high? Reasonably I can't. I find it to be a dereliction of my duty as a man to squash another's dream;But there is one thing we need to remember. Just because there is a woman for every man, doesn't mean every woman is for every man. As animals competition for mate drives us to pursue almost anything that we believe will ensure the survival of our gene pool (Physiologically), Technically (And humanely)we just wanna pull a bad ass chick so we can brag to our friends. Now as much as it hurts this is when you have to Sit back and re-evaluate yourself from an honest and Contrived perspective. "What types of women have I attracted in the past?". "What types of things do I look for?". "What types of things do I stand for?". I've noticed in past experiences the more a guy gravitates from his natural comfort zone, the more he disguises himself. The more he actually hides of his natural personality to fulfill a superficial need or want. That is not to say that there are not Beautiful, mature, grounded women, because there are. But these aren't the women being pursued at bars with belly tops, dancing on counter tops ,living for the pseudo affection of alcohol induced Frat boys. These fake, popularity (At all costs) addicted women may be the life of the party. They may be a notch you desperately want in your belt, but they aren't for everyone. They're for there equally shallow male counterpart. "I spend too much time at the gym, mall, and bar" guy. These equally shallow people come together to spare the rest of us the hassle of dealing with transparency.The beautiful, Grounded, Mature women (Of all races, shapes, sizes) are what you want. They are what you need. They will stimulate you in a number of ways, and will ensure that you stay between those yellow lines, and reach your destination in a safe, timely manner.

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Song of the day: "It no pretty" By gentleman.

it nuh pretty out there at all
so many rise so many fall
so many standing in the middle of dispair
nobody care nobody see it clear

dem blinded by society
and now dem cant see the quality
me see dem limited capacity
verbal verbosity
and dem ignorant atrocity

cant you see its right there
so tell me what a cause so much damn poverty
tell me why the people dem a lose gravity
it caused by a handful of minority
who try to pull down the majority

well this is up to you and me
make we sit down and talk bout long drivity
sit down and reason conscious livity
our natural ability
give thanks for diversity

It nuh pretty out there at all ...

somebody tell me what is happening out there
same old story even though it s a new year
people die every day see dem cry every day
what a burden to bear

me see how you a trick we with your politics of fear
no matter what you do dem always try to smear
and you dem want blame leave you standing in the rain
and i wonder if you hear

so tell me what a cause so much damn poverty
tell me why the people dem a lose gravity
it caused by a handful of minority
who a try to pull down the majority

it nuh pretty out there at all ...







You might ask why I picked a song like this for this type of blog. This blog deals with Love of all kinds. Not only love for your significant other, but your fellow Brothers, and Sisters. It deals with complete respect, and acceptance of our individual beliefs, customs, and standards. We need to embrace one another, and stand united. There are no front, sects, or tribes. We are all human. We are all children of the most high (No matter who you may consider that to be). We all deserve to be loved and respected.

Even though I may not know you all individually. Just know you are loved unconditionally.


-Devin.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Public Service Announcement...

Over the last week friends of mine have hit me with certain issues, that have made me appreciate the state of my own relationship. With that said, these aren't isolated issues. They're happening all over the dating world. "She's not this", "He's not that", " They have to do this in order for us to be together.". What happened to just being together? When did love become this fickle? When did love become harder than what it already was? What happened to the notion of,If there is no us...then there is nothing? We have to have these clothes, That job, or the right amount of money. Since when did a career that you'll have for 30 years become more than a person you've pledged the rest of your life to? Since when did Money become more important than someone who's priceless? Since when did things that you wear matter more than someone who thought you looked best in that one pair of jeans? Remember when people got married and took the time to grow, and accumulate together? Remember when people sacrificed themselves for love, and not just simply look for it from the other person?Remember when a man took longer than 2 years to propose, he was taking too long? There are a lot of questions, but very few people willing to answer them. I guess the true motivation behind this entry is for people to acknowledge the good in there relationships.Embrace your differences, and realize that's what drew you together in the first place. In closing. Love your partner as you wish to be loved, and your reward will be immeasurable.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

5 easy recipies for the single man.

I've tried to do a little research on this subject only to be met with over-ambitious recipe requirements, and irrational time restrictions. So I'm going to put together a list of my own 5 easy recipes for the Bachelor. The name of the game is simplicity, and bulk.Leftovers is the name of the game, and let's face it as much as someone may like to cook, no one wants to cook two days in a row, unless they're getting paid for it. So let's do this!



A. Macaroni and Cheese

• 3/4 cup dry bread crumbs
• 2 tablespoons melted butter
• 8 ounces macaroni
• 2 tablespoons butter
• 1 small onion, minced
• 1 tablespoon all-purpose flour
• salt and pepper to taste
• 1/4 teaspoon dry mustard
• 1 1/2 cups milk
• 2 cups shredded Cheddar cheese

Directions
1.Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 2 quart casserole dish. Place the bread crumbs into a small bowl and mix well with the melted butter; set aside.

2.Bring a large pot of lightly salted water to a boil. Add macaroni and cook for 8 to 10 minutes or until al dente; drain, then place into prepared casserole dish.

3.While the pasta is cooking, melt 2 tablespoons butter in a saucepan over medium heat. Stir in the minced onion and cook until the onion softens and turns translucent, about 5 minutes.

4.Stir in the flour, pepper, salt, and dry mustard until incorporated, then pour in the milk and bring to a simmer. Simmer, stirring constantly until the milk has thickened, about 10 minutes. Take the milk off of the heat and stir in the Cheddar cheese until melted. Pour cheese sauce over the macaroni, then sprinkle evenly with buttered bread crumbs.



B. Grilled Chicken Salad.


• 1lb Boneless Skinless Chicken Breast Halves

*Marinade

• 1/2 cup Olive oil or Vegetable Oil
• Lemon Juice
• 2 Cloves Minced Garlic
• 1/2 Tsp Salt
• 1/2 Tsp Pepper

Vegetables

• 6 cups Washed Torn Romaine lettuce leaves
• 4 quartered Cherry or Plum Tomatoes
• 1/4 cup grated Parmesan (Or cheese of your choice)
• 1 cup croutons



Directions:

1.Place thawed chicken in glass pan.
2.Combine oil, lemon juice, garlic, salt, and pepper in a small bowl.
3.Reserve 1/3 c. marinate (Cover and store in frig.)
4.Pour remaining marinade over chicken in pan.
5.Cover and refrigerate at least ½ hour – 1 hour
6.Toss lettuce, tomatoes, and cheese in large bowl. Cover; refrigerate until serving.
7.Prep grill
8.Drain chicken; reserve marinate from pan.
9.Grill chicken on medium coals, or heat, 10-12 minutes, or until chicken is no longer pink in the middle, brushing with marinade after 5 mins. and turning halfway through grilling time.
10.Discard remaining marinade from the pan.
11.Cool chicken slightly.
12.Slice chicken crosswise into 1/2 wide strips.
13.Add chicken and croutons to lettuce mixture in bowl.
14.Drizzle with 1/3 c. reserved marinade; toss to coat well
15.For variety, make a Caesar salad, or add other veggies to lettuce mixture for a garden salad.

Note: If you don't have a grill, pan fry instead. You may want to allow chicken to become a little overdone to provide texture.





C.Hungarian Paprikash


• 2Lbs Chicken Pieces or Chicken breast.
• 1 Tbsp Salt
• 1 Tbsp Pepper
• 4 Tbsp Minced Onions
• 2 Cups water
• 2 whole peppers ( Green and Red...Add orange if you're feeling saucy!)
• 1 (15oz) can of Whole Tomato
• 2 Tbsp Paprika



1.Brown chicken, Onions, and Garlic.
2. Add water,salt,and Pepper
3. Simmer over medium heat for 20 to 30 minutes.
4.Add Tomato, Paprika, and Green/Red pepper. Mix well.
5. Add Rice Simmer over low heat for 45 minutes. If chicken seems dry add 1/2 cup water while cooking.



D. Caveman Chicken and Roasted Potatoes


Whole Chicken

•1 WHOLE CHICKEN
•4 garlic cloves, Minced
•2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil or Vegetable Oil
•1 tablespoons coarse salt (It can be any type of salt you have available)
•1 teaspoons Black Pepper
•1 teaspoons paprika
•1 teaspoons garlic powder
•1/2 teaspoons cayenne pepper
•1/2teaspoons seasoning salt


1. Apply rub to chicken
2. (Optional) you can either place chicken in the refrigerator to marinate or place
it directly onto baking sheet for cooking.

3. Heat oven to 375 F
4. Let chicken cook for 90 minutes
5. Remove chicken from oven and allow to rest 10-15 minutes


Roasted Potato

•4 large potatoes, Cubed (I prefer leaving the skin on, you can peel if you like)
•1/8 cup extra-virgin olive oil or Vegetable Oil
•2 Garlic cloves (Minced)
•1/2 teaspoons dried basil
•1/2 teaspoon salt
•1 teaspoons paprika

1.Preheat oven to 475 degrees F (245 degrees C).

2.In a large bowl, combine oil, garlic,paprika,basil and salt. Stir in potatoes until evenly coated. Place potatoes in a single layer on a roasting pan or baking sheet.

3.Roast for 20 to 30 minutes in the preheated oven, turning occasionally to brown on all sides.



Note: Please allow the baking sheet to get hot. This will prevent the potatoes from sticking and provide you with a crispy exterior and soft interior.




E. Spaghetti and Meatballs

•1 pound spaghetti
•Salt , for pasta water
•1 1/4 pounds ground sirloin
•2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce, eyeball it
•1 egg, beaten
•1/2 cup Italian bread crumbs, a couple of handfuls
•1/4 cup grated Parmesan, Parmigiano-Reggiano or Romano cheese (Optional)
•2 cloves garlic, chopped
•Salt and pepper
•1 jar tomato sauce


1.Preheat oven to 425 degrees F.

2.Place a large pot of water on to boil for spaghetti. When it boils, add salt and pasta and cook to al dente.

3.Mix beef and Worcestershire, egg, bread crumbs, cheese, garlic, salt and pepper. Roll meat into 1 1/2 inch medium-sized meatballs and place on nonstick cookie sheet or a cookie sheet greased with extra-virgin olive oil.

4.Bake meatballs 10 to 12 minutes, until no longer pink.

5. Heat a deep skillet (or pot) over medium heat.

6. Add Oil and Tomato sauce. ( At this point add whatever seasonings you wish to enhance the flavor.)

7. Bring sauce to a simmer, and add meatballs to finish cooking through.

8. Serve, and Enjoy.




I know it may be a lot to digest at once (No pun intended), but being able to cook for yourself is a major bonus for most women. A man who can take care of himself is one less man that woman has to worry about. Try some of them out. Let me know how it went, and as always if you'd like to add a recipe you're more than welcome.


As always, Be safe, and good luck!

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Companionship: It ain't all about the "Ill-nana"

As men we've all used this phrase following a breakup. " How can we remain friends when we've never ACTUALLY been friends". Looking back on it, I've used this saying numerous times without flinching.Without even thinking for one second that what I was saying was a complete bold faced lie. It wasn't until I got married that I acknowledged the truth. My wife is my friend. As a matter of fact my Best Friend (Sorry guys...you know who you are.). Most of our days are spent huddled in front of the Television Moose on one side, Zelda Perched on one of the stools. Boring yes, some would say so. But to us. It's nirvana. Conversation flows continuously. We spend our nights discussing current events, work, Gossip, and most of all our dreams, and hopes for the future. It will never be perfect. But it's right. There is nothing unique about our relationship, there are many just like it. The most important part is that you acknowledge it. As men "I" is apart of our vocabularies daily diet. A healthy dose of "I did", "I went", "I want", "I Saw's", and "I have" are our daily nutritional Pyramid. Hell there are even times when my wife has to remind me of this. She is completely right. The letter I should have vanished from my vocabulary years ago, but hey I'm a man...I can't help but to relapse every now and again. Men embrace the friendships that you have built, and are building at this very moment. Embrace the companionship. Embrace the emotion that a relationship brings out of you. Would we, Could we be willing to have sex every single night? Hell yeah. But it ain't always about the ill-nana.

Here are a few ways to help further the emotional connection you have with you partner.


1. Listen/Respond: Listen to what your partner is telling you. Let me repeat that. LISTEN To what your partner is telling you. Not only that,be able to formulate a response for it. There is nothing worse than expressing your feelings to someone only to be slapped in the face by a "huh" or "what". She's telling you these things for a reason. You're the only opinion she truly cares about.

2.Drop the "I's": Start Using words like "We", "Ours", and "us". Your relationship may not be very old or established, but once you've declared yourselves boyfriend and girlfriend you are a cohesive unit for the time being. Marriage may not be on the horizon, but thinking as a unit will help with alot of petty issues that arise in relationships.

3. "Do onto others as you would have them do onto you". Respect, and Honor are instrumental for all parties involved. Respect, Honor your partners wishes, and you will be fine. (Irrational requests need not apply)


4. Show your partner who you really are: Vulnerability is NOT weakness. Showing sensitivity is NOT weakness. Whether you believe it or not they are both showcases of strength. Hiding behind walls of pretentiousness is a sure fire way of creating unnecessary space between you and your partner. I'm not saying you have to go all-in on the first hand, but at least play with some vigor, and hunger for life and love.



Again, thank you for your time, and please leave a comment. I am here to learn as well. So if you have anything to add, or discuss feel free to do so.

The True Nature of "The Game"

I've become a big fan of the "Seduction" or "PUE" (Pickup up Expert) communities recently, and while they provide a more exciting, and glamorous aspect to courting a woman, I fear they may be lacking in certain areas. They teach you how to dress, act, walk, even help you to devise game plans in order to predict or control the courtship process. Imagine "Hitch" without the emphasis on love, and romance, but moreso on how to simply just get you laid. As men that's our primary goal, I won't lie or sugar coat it. We want the booty. But most of us want what accompanies the booty. The companionship, and Friendship aspects of a relationship. To avoid any confusion, I am well aware that you cannot provide these aspects; furthermore that you would even want to include any of these romantic aspects with EVERY woman. There are some women who simply fill a need, or due to compromises within your own, or her own character that would only lead you down a path of "sexual endeavors". But in the grand scheme of things we all desire the same thing. Love, Honor, Stability, and companionship. I feel that in some ways the PUE community Preaches some very honorable messages. Be confident, Be fun, Have some pride in yourself and what you have to offer. But if that wasn't you, it's never going to be you. There are men who simply just "Have it", and there are some that don't. Doesn't mean you can't have the woman of your dreams...Or...the woman you deserve. This blog is intended to Give some insight into the true nature of the game. A true Alpha male isn't someone who just looks the part. You can't be 6'4" Ripped from top to bottom, still live in your mommas basement and expect a woman to think you're anymore than a boy toy.
An alpha male is a COMPLETE man. Here are some things we'll be touching on in our Attempt to "Transform ya".

1. Music
2. Fashion
3. Literature
4. Food
5. Drink
6.Things to do
7.Places to go
8. Health and fitness

and Much Much More!

Consider us Esquire without the Snobbery.


WE HOPE TO SEE YOU SOON!