Bros Before Hoes...Wheretheydothatat?

I've been hit with it. You've been hit with it. Stuck in the middle of a tug of war between your boys, and your girl. One wants a romantic evening full of your favorite carryout, cuddling, and a cheesy romance movie. The other wants drinking, body shots, and you to be the best wing man since goose in Top Gun. In theory the second one might sound a lot more fun, but in reality there isn't much of a competition. No matter what your boys might throw at you, You're going to end up sitting on that couch while your extremities fall asleep while watching a movie you hate. Why? Because that's what a REAL man does. They're going to throw the kitchen sink at you, but be vigilant and firm. There is much more at stake here. For one there is a Dependability issue. How can a woman depend on you when there is an emergency, when she can't depend on you to show up in Sweats with a pizza? Then there is an issue of Trust. "Why can't he spend time with me? Why is he always spending time with his boys and other women?". Oh and the biggest issue of them all. Your woman knows you would rather watch paint dry than to have to watch "Dirty Dancing" Or "Pretty Woman" or the "notebook", so chances are she will reward you for your patience at the end of the night. That in itself is enough to Ditch the frat boy act, and man up. There comes a time in a man's life where he needs to realize that his boys are going to be there no matter what. Conversely enough there comes a time in a man's life where he must draw the line between friendships, and relationships. A man needs to indicate the level of seriousness of his relationships maybe not verbally, but definitely in action. Show them your woman comes first. Show them that your relationship is a work in progress that cannot and will not be derailed by grandeur of years past, and that Keg stands, bar hoping and one-nighters are being replaced by romantic dinners,and the aforementioned "movie night". Boys night out are still something that has to be done. You can't destroy one relationship to build up another, but schedule them out, and be reasonable. Show your woman that for the time being she is the highlight of your personal life. Despite this they will try. Your friends will try the ole bait and switch from time to time. They'll resort to begging and pleading. They're going to tell you that they did it for you in the past, or how they really need you or your ability to help attract the "Potential". But ask yourself this. Why spend all night hooking someone else up, when you can spend all night hooking yourself up?