Stick and Move

Love is a Fickle, Fickle game. One where we have to continually keep our ego in check, and keep our heads above water at all times to ensure it's survival. I think as men we find ourselves bowing out in certain relationship situations where we otherwise wouldn't. As married men we live by the saying "Happy wife, Happy life.". As far as you single guys go you may not use that saying but the same emphasis is there. Keep your woman happy, and everything will be alright. Personally I've found conflict with this; Shutting up and walking away from an argument hasn't always been easy for me. But think about it for one second. You standing there and exchanging blows with your significant other can have devastating effects. The truth is no one in a relationship ever really wins an argument, but it can be even worse for Us. In my experiences most women don't argue like men do. Most women tend to argue because a need or want needs to be addressed and we have just failed to listen. There are nags, and women who not only seek, love and need drama in there lives, but for the vast majority of women this is not the case. They're feeling emotionally neglected and they NEED you to listen. It's up to you as not only the man, but HER man to be receptive to her message. Listen, and be constructive. Be attentive to what she wants. This willingness to resolve the issue will bring you two closer together and decrease the likely hood of these discussions taking place. Arguments, and disagreements are apart of every relationship, but if your significant other knows that you are listening and Constantly working towards improving your relationship she will take a different approach to voicing her displeasure. There will be no need for you to do anything, She will check herself.

As always guys. Godspeed, and God Bless!

Less Talk, More Action.

Believe it or not I was not always the ladies man you see before you today. There was a time when women literally scared the crap out of me. You know the sweats, stuttering, rambling, etc, etc, and much like other men in my position took cues from guys who were perceived as being cool in the minds of women(or at that time girls.). Guys who not only looked the part, but Had the verbal "Game" to back it up. I figured if I got my "mouthpiece" in order the rest would be easy. That couldn't have been further from the truth. We are not car salesmen. We are not in the business of talking, but producing results. Although I'm sure they do exist, most women I've encountered Don't want a man who can talk a good game, but one who can put his thoughts, and ideas to use.As I've gotten older I have learned that game is not what you say. It's a mindset. It's a total image that you project.For some playing dress-up and improv-ing there way through the dating scene works; However that leads the real you to try and keep up with a persona you've created which almost never works out. When you're sincere, honest, and the "Real you" your actions naturally follow your words, and align perfectly with your true intentions.This way the woman gets a true sense for who you really are. Leading her to not only be more honest with you, but herself about the true nature of your relationship. Once this has been established there are a few things that you should never overlook. BE HONEST. Be where you say you're going to be. Most women are big girls, and can handle you hitting up a bar with the fellas. What they can't handle is hearing from a secondary source that you were at the bar trickin on all the females. BE ON TIME . It's nothing worse than having to wait for someone. Unless it's some unforseen circumstance you should be early, waiting to greet her. And last but most certainly not least. Be Open Be willing to experience everything this woman has to offer. You never know what type of Quirky activities she may be into. No matter what it is in order to increase her comfort level you must be open to who she really is.


In closing, Talk is cheap. Let your actions be the compass that leads your relationship down the right path.Create a bond based on trust, and dependability. The element of Security is what all successful relationships are built on. Establish it, and Maintain it.


Until next time. Godspeed, and God bless.

5 Recession Proof Date Ideas.

Let's face it. It's a Recession out there. While some of us are doing just fine, and can continue Lavish spending on Sporting Events, Concerts, and Dinners. For those of us who are not, here are some Ideas With a Big emphasis on Romance with Little impact on your finances.


1. Dinner and a movie DIY-style: Instead of going to a restaurant and theater, grab a Netflix and cook your date dinner.

2. Free culture: Most art galleries and/or museums that normally charge entry fees, usually have at least one “free night” a week – take advantage.

3. Have a picnic: Grab a picnic basket with some home-made goodies, a comfy blanket and spend a romantic day in the park.

4. Free wine-tasting: Most wine shops feature free promotional wine-tasting events, a perfect (and educational) date!

5. Your own personal sunset: Take a stroll and let the sunset be the destination for your date -– pretty and, more importantly, free!


These are just a handful. What you do is only limited to your imagination. Remember it isn't what you do, but who you're doing it with.

Song(s) of the week: Good Love Riddim (Oldie but goodie)

Just listen. It will most certainly put you in the Right mood.

Bros Before Hoes...Wheretheydothatat?

I've been hit with it. You've been hit with it. Stuck in the middle of a tug of war between your boys, and your girl. One wants a romantic evening full of your favorite carryout, cuddling, and a cheesy romance movie. The other wants drinking, body shots, and you to be the best wing man since goose in Top Gun. In theory the second one might sound a lot more fun, but in reality there isn't much of a competition. No matter what your boys might throw at you, You're going to end up sitting on that couch while your extremities fall asleep while watching a movie you hate. Why? Because that's what a REAL man does. They're going to throw the kitchen sink at you, but be vigilant and firm. There is much more at stake here. For one there is a Dependability issue. How can a woman depend on you when there is an emergency, when she can't depend on you to show up in Sweats with a pizza? Then there is an issue of Trust. "Why can't he spend time with me? Why is he always spending time with his boys and other women?". Oh and the biggest issue of them all. Your woman knows you would rather watch paint dry than to have to watch "Dirty Dancing" Or "Pretty Woman" or the "notebook", so chances are she will reward you for your patience at the end of the night. That in itself is enough to Ditch the frat boy act, and man up. There comes a time in a man's life where he needs to realize that his boys are going to be there no matter what. Conversely enough there comes a time in a man's life where he must draw the line between friendships, and relationships. A man needs to indicate the level of seriousness of his relationships maybe not verbally, but definitely in action. Show them your woman comes first. Show them that your relationship is a work in progress that cannot and will not be derailed by grandeur of years past, and that Keg stands, bar hoping and one-nighters are being replaced by romantic dinners,and the aforementioned "movie night". Boys night out are still something that has to be done. You can't destroy one relationship to build up another, but schedule them out, and be reasonable. Show your woman that for the time being she is the highlight of your personal life. Despite this they will try. Your friends will try the ole bait and switch from time to time. They'll resort to begging and pleading. They're going to tell you that they did it for you in the past, or how they really need you or your ability to help attract the "Potential". But ask yourself this. Why spend all night hooking someone else up, when you can spend all night hooking yourself up?

Stay in your lane...

Who am I to tell a man not to chase his fantasy? Who am I to tell a man that he's aiming to high? Reasonably I can't. I find it to be a dereliction of my duty as a man to squash another's dream;But there is one thing we need to remember. Just because there is a woman for every man, doesn't mean every woman is for every man. As animals competition for mate drives us to pursue almost anything that we believe will ensure the survival of our gene pool (Physiologically), Technically (And humanely)we just wanna pull a bad ass chick so we can brag to our friends. Now as much as it hurts this is when you have to Sit back and re-evaluate yourself from an honest and Contrived perspective. "What types of women have I attracted in the past?". "What types of things do I look for?". "What types of things do I stand for?". I've noticed in past experiences the more a guy gravitates from his natural comfort zone, the more he disguises himself. The more he actually hides of his natural personality to fulfill a superficial need or want. That is not to say that there are not Beautiful, mature, grounded women, because there are. But these aren't the women being pursued at bars with belly tops, dancing on counter tops ,living for the pseudo affection of alcohol induced Frat boys. These fake, popularity (At all costs) addicted women may be the life of the party. They may be a notch you desperately want in your belt, but they aren't for everyone. They're for there equally shallow male counterpart. "I spend too much time at the gym, mall, and bar" guy. These equally shallow people come together to spare the rest of us the hassle of dealing with transparency.The beautiful, Grounded, Mature women (Of all races, shapes, sizes) are what you want. They are what you need. They will stimulate you in a number of ways, and will ensure that you stay between those yellow lines, and reach your destination in a safe, timely manner.