If you want to keep someone...You better sure as hell act like it.

Yesterday I was looking over at my neighbor who just so happens to be about 6.5 months pregnant. I've watched her belly grow over the last few months, but haven't seen the father since she started to show. Why is this important? Because about a year and a half ago she was engaged to another man. A man whom she'd been with for 3 years, and was Holding out on...Er... Preserving herself until marriage. This man ended up cheating on her. I don't condone cheating, but if you've been with someone for 3 years, "Put a ring on it", and still don't get any there's a HUGE flaw in your relationship. I can still remember the days she came to our door crying about how much of an asshole he was. Only to enter into a new relationship and give it up almost instantly. Only to break up with this guy, put out some more, and now is alone, and pregnant.When if she acted right in the beginning would probably be Married, and had the support necessary to provide a stable environment for her child. What's the moral of the story? Don't make your partner jump through unnecessary hoops in order to stroke your ego. If you love someone. SHOW IT! Regardless if it's Emotional, mental or physical. All three needs must be met(at some point) to validate the relationship. Because if you don't. You're going to find yourself in a situation like my neighbor. Displacing anger because YOU fucked up. Like I said before...I don't condone cheating. BUT...I understand.

UPDATE***

Sorry guys, I've been sick for the last couple of weeks, and haven't really had the Desire to do much blogging. Stay Tuned...A new entry is on the way!


I do want to take a moment to extend my prayers to the People of Jamaica. Tivoli Gardens to be specific. For those who don't know the U.S. government is seeking extradition of Christopher "Dudus" Coke. Some of the Residents of Tivoli have taken up arms in support of "Dudus" and some are being held hostage against there will. May god bring a swift resolution to this problem plaguing this area.

Jamaica...Our prayers are with you.

Good Lovers, Better Friends.

In my initial post I eluded to the fact that my wife is my BEST friend. The reason this is emphasized so much is because she's the first woman to hold that title. Ironic that the woman I chose to marry is also the person I can talk to about any, and everything. In the past I never really held any of the women I've dated in such high regard. They were GIRLfriends, and because of this I always kept them at a little bit of a distance when it came to certain things. I now know that establishing a strong friendship/companionship bond with your significant other is probably the most important thing you can have. You're not always going to have sex. You're not always going to have media distraction. You're not always going to have your boys. What happens if the power goes out? You just have sex until the power company sorts everything out? What happens if a child enters the picture? You slowly gravitate away from one another? Alot of people try to be very business-like about there relationships; But I believe that's wrong. Relationships aren't businesses. Marriages aren't contracts. They're bonds, and they only last if you're honest with yourself, and with each other. Honesty is not just simply telling the truth. It's acting out the truth. It's showing your true feelings. It's responding with true emotion. And once you establish this standard of honesty verbally, and physically your significant other becomes your best friend. I always thought this would be a bad thing. If we became friends it would destroy our intimacy. This couldn't be further from the truth. She already Chose you. If you were destined to be in the friend zone you'd already be there. The rest is up to you. Are YOU mature enough to handle the Dynamics involved in a relationship? Well...Are you?